Here are steps to help you know when to fight for that friendship or forgive and forget that betrayer,snitch, or pain inflicter.
Knowing when to forget the friendship.
1. Number of times: is this the first time it is happening? If yes then your friendship is worth having a rethink, probably it was really a mistake. Is this the second or third time,maybe its been going on but you were dumb to notice, then I suggest you flee from such friendship, run without looking back else you will be ripped pieces by pieces.
2. Apology: a friend had a situation where the betrayer (because that person can't be a friend) had no regret over stabbing her, she ended up shifting blames with no APOLOGY. It is wise that you run away,that friendship has been on for years? Maybe since childhood? Well you have to let it go,the danger sign is too obvious and it was not a mistake but a hatched plan, even if it was a mistake it is most likely to happen again since the betrayer does not feel guilty. Why should you be hurt twice or even more?
3. Advantage taking: betrayal cuts deeper than a double edged sword. You might act strong today by the time you realise it, the deed has cost you a fortune. If you are at the receiving end of this pain then its not meant for you. What about a betrayer who says you made them feel worthless and that's the reason for betraying, or one who accuses you of paying less attention to that friendship, of you feeling like the superior at all times and that was what triggered the action. Nobody has the right to make you feel terrible for the kind of love you dished out. Give it up already.
Are you forgetting that friendship then make sure you forgive even as you break the friendship
Fighting for that friendship
Not all relationships are supposed to be ruined, I believe you have read how to forget that friendship, but since you are here it means your friendship has a hope for survival.. Here are three steps to help you
1. Was it really your fault?: I know you are pained but tell yourself the truth, were you the reason that friend acted that way? If yes then you have to save your friendship and strengthen your weaknesses.
2. Is the betrayer really remorseful?: 'I know I was wrong, I am really sorry' if these are the words you get everyday and you know that person is really sorry, why don't you think about the pain that person is going through for the sake of your pain, why don't you get that friendship back on board, it is worth it because that person still cherishes your presence in their lives.
3. Sacrifices and number of times: its not an excuse for your pain. Have you thought about the things that person has sacrificed for the sake of your friendship? ( not an excuse to walk on your feelings though) I have a cousin who left home to be with an orphan friend who got pregnant premaritally because her parent didn't want to live with the friend, now that's a whole lot to give up for a friend. How many can still do this? Well if that person has sacrificed for that friendship and its the first time this heavy betrayal is happening then your friendship needs to rekindle.
Remember to always follow your instinct because its the sure voice to listen to, but remember to use your head and be considerate of those around you. The greatest commandment is to love your neighbor as yourself. Do not be stupid to fall astray despite it all.
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